I agree but still, its her wedding. The focus should be on her and the future, not her predecessor and the past. There are plenty of other occasions for such a

I agree but still, its her wedding. The focus should be on her and the future, not her predecessor and the past. There are plenty of other occasions for such a loving memorial, for example the anniversary of her passing. The problem with software people is they too often treat people like logical code. Hence the stereotypes. Feynman's letter itself is beautiful precisely because it isn't logical. Not only because he was writing to a dead person, but also beause he so deeply respected their intimacy and cherished her feelings even after her death that he kept the letter private. In other words it was a real letter not a memorial or tribute. It would have been quite logical to publish it in her honor. But he did not!