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"I don't understand the appeal of living in an expense shoebox in a concrete metropolis" You don't need to look any further than the warnings in the post you'r

"I don't understand the appeal of living in an expense shoebox in a concrete metropolis" You don't need to look any further than the warnings in the post you're replying to for a response. If you're dating, prefer lots of social interaction, or attend a lot of big-city events, then you're going to have a bad time living in southern Missouri.

donthaveacow 11y ago
I prefer social interaction as well which is why we hit up Bagnell Dam strip, go to the lake in the summer (& pools with swim up bars), farmer's markets, vineyards, and apple festivals. But I definitely don't think I would have been able to make the switch without rboyd. Definitely recommend to find a partner in the city, then move closer to nature with your love!
marincounty 11y ago
I think the dating ritual depends on the city. I probally shouldn't say this, but I see many single women move to San Francisco, and while if they get housing, they enjoy big-city events, but dating is not one of them here. San Francisco is not a good place for straight women to date. No one talks about it, because it's not politically correct, but in my observations they come here, and are lonely. There's just too many single women, and not enough men. I have a very attractive ex-girlfriend, and we had so many conversations about social life, or lack there of. It got to the point, where I took her out and watched what took place. Guys--way below her league wouldn't talk to her unless she aggressively talked to them first. I know I get hammered because I'm not being politically correct, and yes--there's always the exceptions, but at least in San Francisco it's difficult for sigle women looking for a steady relationship. I'll point out the politically incorrect thoughts, and save you time: I shouldn't have stereotyped. I shouldn't have assumed some females are looking for a steady relationship. I shouldn't have mentioned looks/personality when I said "way below her league". I probally left out something that hurt someone deeply--sorry.
- nether 11y ago
  It's well established from census data that SF has a surplus of single men, not women. More political incorrectness: women in SF should "woman up" and initiate the approach. Why must they play the passive role? Also, guys naturally are less likely to approach a woman who's out of their league.
  - onnoonno 11y ago
    Some decades of reengineering the gender relations didn't change this passive role at all - so why do you expect this to ever change?

donthaveacow 11y ago

I prefer social interaction as well which is why we hit up Bagnell Dam strip, go to the lake in the summer (& pools with swim up bars), farmer's markets, vineyards, and apple festivals. But I definitely don't think I would have been able to make the switch without rboyd. Definitely recommend to find a partner in the city, then move closer to nature with your love!

marincounty 11y ago

I think the dating ritual depends on the city. I probally shouldn't say this, but I see many single women move to San Francisco, and while if they get housing, they enjoy big-city events, but dating is not one of them here. San Francisco is not a good place for straight women to date. No one talks about it, because it's not politically correct, but in my observations they come here, and are lonely. There's just too many single women, and not enough men. I have a very attractive ex-girlfriend, and we had so many conversations about social life, or lack there of. It got to the point, where I took her out and watched what took place. Guys--way below her league wouldn't talk to her unless she aggressively talked to them first. I know I get hammered because I'm not being politically correct, and yes--there's always the exceptions, but at least in San Francisco it's difficult for sigle women looking for a steady relationship. I'll point out the politically incorrect thoughts, and save you time: I shouldn't have stereotyped. I shouldn't have assumed some females are looking for a steady relationship. I shouldn't have mentioned looks/personality when I said "way below her league". I probally left out something that hurt someone deeply--sorry.

nether 11y ago
It's well established from census data that SF has a surplus of single men, not women. More political incorrectness: women in SF should "woman up" and initiate the approach. Why must they play the passive role? Also, guys naturally are less likely to approach a woman who's out of their league.
- onnoonno 11y ago
  Some decades of reengineering the gender relations didn't change this passive role at all - so why do you expect this to ever change?