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First, the most common use of a "chosen name" policy would be to let you find someone by the name they actually use - stage name, pen name, drag name, or unoffi

First, the most common use of a "chosen name" policy would be to let you find someone by the name they actually use - stage name, pen name, drag name, or unofficially changed name. Second, the less common but equally important use of a chosen name policy would be to make it hard to find someone who doesn't want to be found eg: by an abusive, dangerous ex.

zo1 11y ago
That can all be dealt with by making your profile private, and not public. Additionally, you simply block the bad/dangerous/stalking party (assuming you are aware of them). I see countless individuals making their Facebook profiles entirely public, and it's quite frankly scary. At that point they have no control over what the internet sees of them. You can't even change it after the fact, as it's probably been indexed in search engines and cached in internet archives.
- JulianMorrison 11y ago
  Abusers make new accounts, and they search you from public computers. Abusers are human, they can think around incomplete protections. Honestly I'm personally of the opinion that the best way to deal with abusive people is to shoot them, several times, and possibly stake and burn the corpse, but the law gets grumpy. So second best is taking a new name and making a new life, and I don't agree that people ought to have vanish themselves from the internet just to preserve Facebook's fetish for government-issued names.
  - retbull 11y ago
    That view is incredibly short sighted. People get better at being good people and killing them instantly destroys and chance that they can become better people. Killing them also doesn't allow for mistakes or for learning. Also what about the people dependent on the person who is abusing for survival. The abused should never be exposed to abuse but if their abuser provides for them and is killed then they have to go through another hellish situation by being homeless. I don't know what the solution is and what we have in place is barely better than killing them but it does sometimes allow for the growth of individuals.

zo1 11y ago

That can all be dealt with by making your profile private, and not public. Additionally, you simply block the bad/dangerous/stalking party (assuming you are aware of them). I see countless individuals making their Facebook profiles entirely public, and it's quite frankly scary. At that point they have no control over what the internet sees of them. You can't even change it after the fact, as it's probably been indexed in search engines and cached in internet archives.

JulianMorrison 11y ago
Abusers make new accounts, and they search you from public computers. Abusers are human, they can think around incomplete protections. Honestly I'm personally of the opinion that the best way to deal with abusive people is to shoot them, several times, and possibly stake and burn the corpse, but the law gets grumpy. So second best is taking a new name and making a new life, and I don't agree that people ought to have vanish themselves from the internet just to preserve Facebook's fetish for government-issued names.
- retbull 11y ago
  That view is incredibly short sighted. People get better at being good people and killing them instantly destroys and chance that they can become better people. Killing them also doesn't allow for mistakes or for learning. Also what about the people dependent on the person who is abusing for survival. The abused should never be exposed to abuse but if their abuser provides for them and is killed then they have to go through another hellish situation by being homeless. I don't know what the solution is and what we have in place is barely better than killing them but it does sometimes allow for the growth of individuals.