> What does it matter if they don't consider themselves gay? They might be bisexual. The be trans-something. They might have other problems that make the sex

> What does it matter if they don't consider themselves gay? They might be bisexual. The be trans-something. They might have other problems that make the sex and gender of their sex partners irrelevant: http://www1.villagevoice.com/people/0804,savage,78927,24.html http://www1.villagevoice.com/people/0804,savage,78927,24.htm... There is a good answer to your question having to do with the semiotics of sex and gender which is practical, smart, and important in day-to-day life (even if the people who wrote it all want to dig up the remains of Jacques Derrida so they can stare at his navel some more). I'm not going post it here because you probably don't want to read it, but you should know that the people who look down their noses at you for saying stuff like this aren't just doing it because of some feel-good PC nonsense.