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> Life would certainly be easier in some situations if humans were this rational. However I don't think they are. In this case you say, "How much does it reall
by javert 11y ago
> Life would certainly be easier in some situations if humans were this rational. However I don't think they are.
In this case you say, "How much does it really matter that Linus is being a huge asshole to me? Is this really something I should be ashamed about? Do I really care that much? Is this going to have any effect long term?" and so on. And perhaps most importantly, you remember the positive things that counterbalance the negatives.
It doesn't take a genius. Humans are certainly "rational enough" to do this.
This is the same technique used by/promoted by cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy.
A person who never learns to do this effectively is going to be at the mercy of random emotions their entire life.
- jpmoral 11y agoThere's a huge difference between being "at the mercy of random emotions their entire life" and deciding that staying in the situation you're in just isn't worth it anymore. People make that decision all the time, and have different thresholds for it. I don't understand the hostility towards Sarah's decision in the thread.
- javert 11y ago> There's a huge difference between being "at the mercy of random emotions their entire life" and deciding that staying in the situation you're in just isn't worth it anymore. Right. We weren't specifically taking about Sarah Sharp any more at the point in the conversation that I said that. I would not want to stay in a genuinely hostile work environment, and I would leave. That said, I doubt the LKML is actually a genuinely hostile work environment. The people on LKML do not genuinely wish others harm or genuinely despise them. They just have a culture of being confrontational, harsh, and direct, sometimes with exaggeration, and it works. That is something that Sarah Sharp could not (or wasn't willing to) adapt to, by her own admission. Conversely, there should be no expectation that the community of Linux developers is going to adapt to Sarah Sharp. Nor should they---what they have works very well.
- jpmoral 11y agoI can agree with you here. > Conversely, there should be no expectation that the community of Linux developers is going to adapt to Sarah Sharp. Nor should they---what they have works very well. I hope we can agree, though, that she can't be blamed for trying. I really don't get the hostility to that (not from you).