well, this is what helped when I faced a similar siutation : 1. I took the guy who offended me to an informal cup of coffee and discussed about the situation.

well, this is what helped when I faced a similar siutation : 1. I took the guy who offended me to an informal cup of coffee and discussed about the situation. 2. Instead of confronting him, I explained my perspective and sought out his guidance to help me out. It did help me in two ways : 1. The other person realized that I'm another human being just like him and not some "ideal code cranking robot" that he expected me to be ! He even apologized at some point for any offense he would have caused, explained his reasons and assured me that it was not personal. 2. I realized that he was under similar stress for meeting his own challenges / expectations laid out to him by his superiors. So, helped me feel better about myself , that the situation was caused mostly due to his inability to communicate rather than any fault from my end !