> And sometimes being personally disrespectful yields better results. Which is, after all, what one wants out of a software project: results, not happy feelings

> And sometimes being personally disrespectful yields better results. Which is, after all, what one wants out of a software project: results, not happy feelings. This kind of belittlement is not doing her post justice at all, and is exactly the kind of disrespect she is criticizing. She does not talk much about her feelings at all, but about respect. It is completely possible to criticize the work of someone, also with harsh words if needed, but without being disrespectful towards the person.