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Wow. Pauline comes across as scummy and Hemingway comes across as weak. I'm not a religious person, but this is exactly what the word "sin" was invented for: an

Wow. Pauline comes across as scummy and Hemingway comes across as weak. I'm not a religious person, but this is exactly what the word "sin" was invented for: an action that is tempting but morally wrong and also makes you worse off. Like many people, I've been in a similar situation. My girlfriend's "best friend" decided that she wanted me for herself. After a few very unpleasant months of the same "double love" as described in the article, one day me and my gf just decided to cut off the "friend" completely, no contact through any channels. I thought it would hurt, but actually it felt great.

klodolph 11y ago
That's a fairly shallow and judgmental way of putting things, and you managed to insert some bragging at the same time. "Hemingway is weak, Pauline is scummy, but I did the right thing when two women both loved me."
- cousin_it 11y ago
  Jeez. They were just people, and we're people. Imagine you have a male friend and he tells you this story. "Hey man, I'm in this difficult situation, I got a wife and a baby but there's this other lady chasing me too. We tried to get away from her and went to a resort, but she came to the same resort! I love my wife but I think I love that lady too." What would you do? I'd tell him to forget the love bullshit and cut that lady out of his life ASAP. I think that's the only sane decision. There's no point trying to be non-judgmental here.
  - klodolph 11y ago
    I guess my issue here is that the comment doesn't really offer anything besides judgment. It's okay to be judgmental, but the comment didn't have any substance to it.
    - cousin_it 11y ago
      Yeah I see. It was actually intended as advice for people in similar situations. Giving an example from my life was just to lend some weight to the advice, otherwise people would say "it's not so easy and you don't know what you're talking about". Sorry if it came across as a humblebrag, I didn't realize that at the time.
  - nemo44x 11y ago
    I agree, we're all people. We should all try our best to be good people but at various times we have all been weak, scummy, etc. The good person reflects on those times and tries to improve.
- AnimalMuppet 11y ago
  And in a win for irony, you also manage to be judgmental...
yarou 11y ago
Monogamy is a meme that has been propagated to preserve property rights and rules of inheritance. To make moral judgements of artificial constructs is invalid. Human beings, specifically women, are hypergamous. So the most logical regime is actually one of polyamory and polygamy, rather than monogamy.

klodolph 11y ago

That's a fairly shallow and judgmental way of putting things, and you managed to insert some bragging at the same time. "Hemingway is weak, Pauline is scummy, but I did the right thing when two women both loved me."

cousin_it 11y ago
Jeez. They were just people, and we're people. Imagine you have a male friend and he tells you this story. "Hey man, I'm in this difficult situation, I got a wife and a baby but there's this other lady chasing me too. We tried to get away from her and went to a resort, but she came to the same resort! I love my wife but I think I love that lady too." What would you do? I'd tell him to forget the love bullshit and cut that lady out of his life ASAP. I think that's the only sane decision. There's no point trying to be non-judgmental here.
- klodolph 11y ago
  I guess my issue here is that the comment doesn't really offer anything besides judgment. It's okay to be judgmental, but the comment didn't have any substance to it.
  - cousin_it 11y ago
    Yeah I see. It was actually intended as advice for people in similar situations. Giving an example from my life was just to lend some weight to the advice, otherwise people would say "it's not so easy and you don't know what you're talking about". Sorry if it came across as a humblebrag, I didn't realize that at the time.
- nemo44x 11y ago
  I agree, we're all people. We should all try our best to be good people but at various times we have all been weak, scummy, etc. The good person reflects on those times and tries to improve.
AnimalMuppet 11y ago
And in a win for irony, you also manage to be judgmental...

yarou 11y ago

Monogamy is a meme that has been propagated to preserve property rights and rules of inheritance. To make moral judgements of artificial constructs is invalid. Human beings, specifically women, are hypergamous. So the most logical regime is actually one of polyamory and polygamy, rather than monogamy.