Once you ask yourself about leaving, it is only a question of when, not whether. Sooner, the better. It is not you nor them; it is just time. Tight-knit groups

Once you ask yourself about leaving, it is only a question of when, not whether. Sooner, the better. It is not you nor them; it is just time. Tight-knit groups wrap themselves inside a bubble of conformance. The group's very existence is based on a shared worldview about itself - that it is correct. To leave is to question a choice made by everyone else. To stand out in a crowd is physically painful - it is called the pain of independence (Susan Cain). For the privileged, jobs are not about the salary; money is aplenty. It is purpose we're after. What shall you do with yourself when, for the first time in your life, you actually get to choose how to spend your time? There was always the parents, the schools, and the workplaces to give a rhythm to our life and purpose to our days. It is scary the first time we confront it - when we quit an institution without knowing where next to anchor. Next time it'll get easier.