First time father with a seven month old here. I observe there is frequently more attachment to an idea (don't formula feed!) than there is the ideal (baby sho

First time father with a seven month old here. I observe there is frequently more attachment to an idea (don't formula feed!) than there is the ideal (baby should be as healthy as possible). But I also observe that part of that is driven (at least, in America, where you seem to also be located) by the conceptual societal framework that has led kids to understand you should only be with people who don't criticize you, and my wife and I heard from several people while she was pregnant that we 'need to find our tribe,' where we try to exclusively spend our social time in a sub-group of people that share our philosophies on child-rearing and related fields. I reject this line of thinking as needlessly polarizing, and I think that if you only are with your tribe, you're going to be messing up your kid the same way everyone else in that tribe messes up their kids (and I also observe that every generation of Americans since the 'Greatest Generation' complains about how their parents raised them, I don't expect my children's generation to be any different)