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I think this is because society dictates that men who aren't educated and earning lots of money are somehow less attractive. They call it dating 'down'. Firstl
by pa12 11y ago
I think this is because society dictates that men who aren't educated and earning lots of money are somehow less attractive. They call it dating 'down'.
Firstly we more women in college.
Secondly guys are less likely to judge their mates by whether they do attend college, so you end up with a dynamic where college educated men are dating both 'up' and 'down' whereas college educated girls only want to date 'up'.
This mentality of dating 'up' based on societies ideals of what 'up' is somehow feels like hypocrisy as many of these girls are staunch feminists.
Why are these non college educated guys not good enough? Are they bad people because they didn't go to college?
Oh well, as a college educated guy, im not complaining.
- Jtsummers 11y agoSomewhat related: The way men and women describe themselves on OKCupid [0]. Career/education is more a part of men's "character" than it is for women (or it appears this way). [0] http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/09/men-women-market-themselves-okcupid/407671/ http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2015/09/men-wome...
- pa12 11y agoTrue, the girls are marketing themselves as 'girly' or 'sassy' - this is against the ideals of feminism is it not?
- dragonwriter 11y agoGirls being compelled to do so by external expectations of their gender is against the ideals of feminism. Girls choosing to do so because that's how they prefer to see themselves and the image they like to project is not, or at least, the idea that it is would likely be controversial among self-described feminists.
- Futurebot 11y agoThe article addresses this. Men are just as picky in this area: "It's not just women, both men and women are unlikely to date and marry across those lines. It just doesn't matter for the men because the pool of educated women is so vast that their own classism doesn't really punish them. But being unwilling to consider working-class guys affects women in ways that it doesn't affect men. It's totally unfair, and I get that, but it's not like only the women are choosy and the men are all open-minded." That's what assortative mating is all about: http://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21595972-how-sexual-equality-increases-gap-between-rich-and-poor-households-sex-brains-and http://www.economist.com/news/united-states/21595972-how-sex...