People's feelings aren't necessarily reasonable. If you grow up almost exclusively in an environment where failure can snowball fairly easily, which school is,

People's feelings aren't necessarily reasonable. If you grow up almost exclusively in an environment where failure can snowball fairly easily, which school is, and everyone tells you it's really important not to fail in that context, whether or not that's true, then that will be likely to be a large part of the pattern of emotion you have when confronting failures outside that context.