That does happen, praising men for doing basic things. That said, I'm interested in your thoughts about something else… I read (sorry no cite, I think it was i

That does happen, praising men for doing basic things. That said, I'm interested in your thoughts about something else… I read (sorry no cite, I think it was in the nytimes though) that while men are less likely to suffer a career penalty due to having kids, that's largely because men are less likely to sacrifice work for child care in the first place. People can argue about the reasons, but it's pretty indisputable in the data that this burden is more likely to fall on the mother than the father. However, the study (again, I can't cite it, apologies for that) suggested that those men who do take time off from work for child care may face an unusually harsh career penalty for it. In short, employers don't like it when either parent takes time off to watch kids, but they may be particularly resentful when a man does it. Do you think there may be harsher judgement for men who do this, something akin to pressure not to take paternity leave?