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"...increases my standing when being selected by partners." What type of partners?

toomuchtodo 11y ago
> What type of partners? Female partners seeking a relationship or sexual encounter. I'm 32, male, do well financially as well as career wise (I'm highly in demand). I still want to be desirable to the opposite sex. I'm sure its part biology, part psychology.
- jazzyk 11y ago
  Totally normal. Humans are born with it - it is part of the evolutionary process.
- gearoidoc 11y ago
  Golddiggers are probably the only ones who are influenced by your job title but whatever floats your boat.
  - toomuchtodo 11y ago
    I wouldn't consider doctors, lawyers, and other professionals "golddiggers". Some people want to date "on their level" I've been told.
    - gearoidoc 11y ago
      Well they're not mutually exclusive but I can kind of see where you're coming from. I think you're setting yourself up to miss out on a lot if you're only interested in dating someone who makes X dollars a year though.
  - tomp 11y ago
    It's a well-researched fact that women are reluctant to "date down" (in terms of social standing, education, professional achievement and wealth), whereas men don't care - they (we) are mostly interested in how attractive a woman is.
    - gearoidoc 11y ago
      Is this your own personal experience? Also: define "attractive".
      - tomp 11y ago
        > Is this your own personal experience? I haven't paid much attention to it personally. Sorry, by "attractive" I meant "physically attractive".
        gearoidoc 11y ago
        It's strange - I've lived in several (Western) countries but have to witness this seemingly pervasive behaviour that men are driven mostly by physical attractiveness. Anecdata I know but I've seen lots of good looking girls get minimum attention because of their shyness or insecurity. I've seen the opposite of this tons of times.
        tomp 11y ago
        It appears you misunderstood me. I'm not trying to say that there is some objective standard of beauty that all men agree with - there certainly are variations in personal preferences and tastes. Just like in women. The point is, if a man finds a girl physically attractive, it doesn't matter to him whether she's a waitress or a CEO. On the other hand, women are more likely to find the CEO more attractive than a waiter.
    - gohrt 11y ago
      While we're throwing around baseless stereotypes, the one I've heard is that men are reluctant to "date up", and successful women have trouble finding mates because of this.
  - beachstartup 11y ago
    gold diggers are the best because they're easy to spot, and good for a quick, easy lay. that's what floats my boat. quite honestly these days if you're looking for true love you're a fucking fool.
    - gearoidoc 11y ago
      You're either a troll or seriously hung up on an ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend.
      - beachstartup 11y ago
        i've never been the relationship type. my hangups are on other things.

> What type of partners? Female partners seeking a relationship or sexual encounter. I'm 32, male, do well financially as well as career wise (I'm highly in demand). I still want to be desirable to the opposite sex. I'm sure its part biology, part psychology.

jazzyk 11y ago
Totally normal. Humans are born with it - it is part of the evolutionary process.
gearoidoc 11y ago
Golddiggers are probably the only ones who are influenced by your job title but whatever floats your boat.
- toomuchtodo 11y ago
  I wouldn't consider doctors, lawyers, and other professionals "golddiggers". Some people want to date "on their level" I've been told.
  - gearoidoc 11y ago
    Well they're not mutually exclusive but I can kind of see where you're coming from. I think you're setting yourself up to miss out on a lot if you're only interested in dating someone who makes X dollars a year though.
- tomp 11y ago
  It's a well-researched fact that women are reluctant to "date down" (in terms of social standing, education, professional achievement and wealth), whereas men don't care - they (we) are mostly interested in how attractive a woman is.
  - gearoidoc 11y ago
    Is this your own personal experience? Also: define "attractive".
    - tomp 11y ago
      > Is this your own personal experience? I haven't paid much attention to it personally. Sorry, by "attractive" I meant "physically attractive".
      - gearoidoc 11y ago
        It's strange - I've lived in several (Western) countries but have to witness this seemingly pervasive behaviour that men are driven mostly by physical attractiveness. Anecdata I know but I've seen lots of good looking girls get minimum attention because of their shyness or insecurity. I've seen the opposite of this tons of times.
        tomp 11y ago
        It appears you misunderstood me. I'm not trying to say that there is some objective standard of beauty that all men agree with - there certainly are variations in personal preferences and tastes. Just like in women. The point is, if a man finds a girl physically attractive, it doesn't matter to him whether she's a waitress or a CEO. On the other hand, women are more likely to find the CEO more attractive than a waiter.
  - gohrt 11y ago
    While we're throwing around baseless stereotypes, the one I've heard is that men are reluctant to "date up", and successful women have trouble finding mates because of this.
- beachstartup 11y ago
  gold diggers are the best because they're easy to spot, and good for a quick, easy lay. that's what floats my boat. quite honestly these days if you're looking for true love you're a fucking fool.
  - gearoidoc 11y ago
    You're either a troll or seriously hung up on an ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend.
    - beachstartup 11y ago
      i've never been the relationship type. my hangups are on other things.