My point was that you don't deal with society directly, you deal with individual people. Ignoring their personal motivations and grouping everybody who isn't yo

My point was that you don't deal with society directly, you deal with individual people. Ignoring their personal motivations and grouping everybody who isn't you into "society" doesn't sound like a productive way to interact with individuals. Because of this, discussing society and whether it is or isn't your friend in this context makes as much sense to me as discussing whether the Grand Tetons are your friend. Essentially, when I hear "it's them versus you and they don't like you much" (my reading of your first post) I hear a lot of alienation and I don't think it's a useful framework for helping lonely people make sense of the world. Thanks for taking the time to explain what you meant.