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Your comments are very insightful. I know this because I try to read the whole comment before judging. Unfortunately, even in fairly intelligent audiences like

Your comments are very insightful. I know this because I try to read the whole comment before judging. Unfortunately, even in fairly intelligent audiences like HN, it is common for people to form judgements based primarily on first impressions. Someone who reads only the first sentence (or even the second sentence) of any of your comments in this thread will think that your are hostile and condescending, which is probably why people are fighting back instead of listening to the insight that you share later in each comment. Your comments will generate more interesting conversation, and are more likely to be truly heard and understood, if you are more careful with your early words.

stcredzero 17y ago
Your comments are very insightful. I know this because I try to read the whole comment before judging. Unfortunately, even in fairly intelligent audiences like HN, it is common for people to form judgements based primarily on first impressions. "First impression" now equals "Incorrect conclusion from careless partial reading?" And people wonder why I so often complain about "poor reading comprehension" even on HN?
- dbz 17y ago
  Sometimes that "Incorrect conclusion from careless partial reading" is actually "Incorrect conclusion from reading ambiguous text." You can argue everything you say is always crystal clear, but...well...I'll leave it at that. And if that careless partial reading comment is directed at me, which it is fair for me to assume so seeing as this conversation started from a retort to my comment, I didn't only read a piece of the post. Before I comment I read the entire post and sometimes (usually on forums) I break the post apart like you've done and respond to pieces at a time. Anyways. I find it very amusing that you disregarded such high praise; however, it would have been odd not to do so seeing as the poster seemed to make the mistake you seem to dislike.
  - foldr 17y ago
    I'm not sure if you were referring to me here, but personally I did read the entire comment and found all of it hostile and condescending. I also find his insinuation that I haven't read his comments thoroughly enough hostile and condescending.
    - dbz 17y ago
      No, I was referring to ericlavigne. Although you are correct in saying that the comment was hostile and condescending. I'm sure the poster meant it to be as such for many possible reasons none of which I will try to guess.
      - stcredzero 17y ago
        Stating that someone has "incomplete experience" is hostile, as opposed to informative? The statement was meant to tweak natural curiosity. Apparently, I'm supposed to stroke everyone's ego so that they feel perfect, otherwise I'm called "hostile." I posit the "tone" comes from the reader.

stcredzero 17y ago

Your comments are very insightful. I know this because I try to read the whole comment before judging. Unfortunately, even in fairly intelligent audiences like HN, it is common for people to form judgements based primarily on first impressions. "First impression" now equals "Incorrect conclusion from careless partial reading?" And people wonder why I so often complain about "poor reading comprehension" even on HN?

dbz 17y ago
Sometimes that "Incorrect conclusion from careless partial reading" is actually "Incorrect conclusion from reading ambiguous text." You can argue everything you say is always crystal clear, but...well...I'll leave it at that. And if that careless partial reading comment is directed at me, which it is fair for me to assume so seeing as this conversation started from a retort to my comment, I didn't only read a piece of the post. Before I comment I read the entire post and sometimes (usually on forums) I break the post apart like you've done and respond to pieces at a time. Anyways. I find it very amusing that you disregarded such high praise; however, it would have been odd not to do so seeing as the poster seemed to make the mistake you seem to dislike.
- foldr 17y ago
  I'm not sure if you were referring to me here, but personally I did read the entire comment and found all of it hostile and condescending. I also find his insinuation that I haven't read his comments thoroughly enough hostile and condescending.
  - dbz 17y ago
    No, I was referring to ericlavigne. Although you are correct in saying that the comment was hostile and condescending. I'm sure the poster meant it to be as such for many possible reasons none of which I will try to guess.
    - stcredzero 17y ago
      Stating that someone has "incomplete experience" is hostile, as opposed to informative? The statement was meant to tweak natural curiosity. Apparently, I'm supposed to stroke everyone's ego so that they feel perfect, otherwise I'm called "hostile." I posit the "tone" comes from the reader.