> We marvel at how most people, including many who seem less datable than us, successfully manage this simple trick — maintaining relationships — that we can’t

> We marvel at how most people, including many who seem less datable than us, successfully manage this simple trick — maintaining relationships — that we can’t seem to pull off. Dead giveaway at "seem less datable than us". It's called the option value of remaining single. People who perceive themselves as a catch often wait too long. Because, after all, almost every choice is imperfect in some way. And the more perfect the other may seem (according to "datability"), the more they too may be prone to overestimating the option value of remaining single. So really it's self-centered melodrama.