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Is it more oppressive to utter two words or kick someone out of a social gathering?

• jMyles 11y ago
  If someone starts throwing slurs around, kick them out. I'm not saying ban them, but say, "Hey, you can't say that here. I need to ask you got take a walk and get your shit together. Come back after lunch and try again." Then maybe that night send an email saying "We've all said stupid shit, but I can't have people telling a copy editor to put 'stupid gay shit' on a page. We're going to lose people that way. Just be a little more sensitive to your surroundings and you'll be fine." But the "fucking nerds" thing? No, I don't think I'll kick someone out for that, but I will most certainly pull them aside and say, "Listen, dude. You've got some talent and some experience around this table. We're all people - our goals as humans are basically the same - to be healthy, socially active, highly collaborative friends with good careers and hobbies and whatever. Nobody is here to be your nerd. If you're part of the team, be that and show that. Most of all, if you have something to say about the structure of this team, do not - EVER - do it in 'half-joking' way. That shit is toxic and it's not welcome here." So yes, in both cases, I think that an intervention was required and I'm surprised that one didn't occur.