> because it's a big part of who i am. to give a simple example of just how thoroughly oblivious you are - i was invited to many hetero weddings, some pretty bi

> because it's a big part of who i am. to give a simple example of just how thoroughly oblivious you are - i was invited to many hetero weddings, some pretty big ones, and it had not once occurred to me to come up to the bride and groom and say: "you know, do all these people really need to know you two are fucking?!" > love is a big deal in everyone's life, and i won't stick mine in a closet because you don't want to hear it. I don't really think that's a fair comparison. A wedding is a public celebration between two people so of course they want everyone to know that they're celebrating something. But your own sexual orientation? How do you bring that up in a conversation not about sexual orientation? I don't care what someone's orientation is, they can be whatever they want, but if I'm meeting someone for the first time why do I need to know about their orientation? Obviously no one here is saying to HIDE your orientation but, at least for me, being heterosexual doesn't make me who I am, does being homosexual really make people who they are? I feel like that's separate from sexual orientation. In my opinion at least.