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I've spent a lot of time reading about how to improve myself socially, and the gist of it is this: be honest. If you give a false compliment, people can tell.

I've spent a lot of time reading about how to improve myself socially, and the gist of it is this: be honest. If you give a false compliment, people can tell. If you aren't paying attention, people can tell. Even more importantly, YOU can tell. Therefore it's more important to change your attitude to be a receptive, open minded, friendly one. In my opinion, this Crystal app seems to cheat the system. However, if you merely change your behavior to suit people's personalities, you lack a personality yourself, and you'll find it start to haunt you, as other people, no matter how bad they may be at subconsciously picking up signals, will likely catch on to your insincerity over time.

venomsnake 11y ago
A great thing that I mastered is when I lie to believe myself. I know it is a lie, but i also know it is truth. Helps a lot.
- Jtsummers 11y ago
  Eh. I had a girlfriend like that. We're no longer friends because we'd end up with exchanges like this: Me: Man, I miss camping. I once went to... Her: I love camping! We should go sometime! There's this place... Couple months later Me: Hey, it's getting into fall and the weather's great. We've both got a couple long weekends coming up. Want to go camping on one of them? Her: I hate camping. Me: ... (this is just a sample, the same thing happened on several, far more serious, issues that couples face) Seriously, insincerity and dishonesty, even if you have yourself convinced of your lies in that moment, really fucking sucks.
lukethomas 11y ago
You present good points. Our goal at Crystal isn't to game the system when communicating with others, but to help you be more aware of these personality differences (and show them at the right time with tools). For example, my dad is extremely task oriented and logical. I'm the exact opposite. When I listen to him talk about something for an hour in extreme detail, understanding his personality helps me be a little more empathetic, as I know it's naturally something he's going to do.

venomsnake 11y ago

A great thing that I mastered is when I lie to believe myself. I know it is a lie, but i also know it is truth. Helps a lot.

Jtsummers 11y ago
Eh. I had a girlfriend like that. We're no longer friends because we'd end up with exchanges like this: Me: Man, I miss camping. I once went to... Her: I love camping! We should go sometime! There's this place... Couple months later Me: Hey, it's getting into fall and the weather's great. We've both got a couple long weekends coming up. Want to go camping on one of them? Her: I hate camping. Me: ... (this is just a sample, the same thing happened on several, far more serious, issues that couples face) Seriously, insincerity and dishonesty, even if you have yourself convinced of your lies in that moment, really fucking sucks.

lukethomas 11y ago

You present good points. Our goal at Crystal isn't to game the system when communicating with others, but to help you be more aware of these personality differences (and show them at the right time with tools). For example, my dad is extremely task oriented and logical. I'm the exact opposite. When I listen to him talk about something for an hour in extreme detail, understanding his personality helps me be a little more empathetic, as I know it's naturally something he's going to do.