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It's more likely that your declining testosterone is to blame. edit: Please explain the downvotes, I'm trying to offer a more scientific explanation.

michaelwww 11y ago
Could be or it could be more existential than that. The inscription on Robert Kennedy's memorial across from his grave in D.C. comes to mind: "Aeschylus...wrote, Even in our sleep, pain which cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, until, in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God" This is from a speech he gave on the night of MLK's assasination.
jschwartzi 11y ago
Well, OP is trying to explain that, as a man, it's okay to cry, and here you are saying that real men don't cry, and if he were more of a man he would be able to go through life stoically ignoring his feelings. It's basically the exact attitude that the article decries.
- thowmeinariver 11y ago
  I disagree, I found OP's statement to be very egotistical. He was painting himself as superior to younger men because "they haven't experienced much, that's why they don't cry!". Should younger men whose hormones don't allow them to cry feel bad about themselves? Are they subhuman for what they are? Have they not had enough "real life experiences"? This is obviously false. In fact, the majority of young men who experienced far worse than OP would still find themselves less likely to cry, and the reason is simply: biology. edit: >and think it's a sign of sanity Right, only OP is sane. Men who don't cry are lunatics.
  - crpatino 11y ago
    If you are going to ask for an explanation, and then deny what people is trying to tell you and twist their words, you might as well take the down votes with a measure of dignity.
pherq 11y ago
Just because you mention testosterone doesn't make your explanation scientific. Given that the article in question brings up that men not crying is a relatively recent thing, and seems to be largely cultural, assuming that it must be caused by testosterone (rather than just socialisation) seems unwarranted (and, given that it disagrees with observation, unscientific).
- thowmeinariver 11y ago
  The article is trying to push an agenda. It simply isn't true that men crying was a common occurrence that suddenly vanished in the 20th century. Men crying is a powerful literary device precisely _because_ men don't cry often. It's a cheap way to signal the importance of a situation. It's not very controversial to say that low testosterone in men leads to increased tenancy to cry. If you are a man and go to the doctor saying that you have recently caught yourself crying much more often than in the past, they will get your T levels checked, not refer you to a psychologist.
dang 11y ago
We detached this from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10218815 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10218815 and marked it off-topic for trolling.
- thowmeinariver 11y ago
  shrug Bluntness is not trolling.
kuni-toko-tachi 11y ago
100% correct. It has everything to do with low T. And the truth is in the downvotes. Not a man among them, only shiveling weaklings weaping big sobbing tears like children.

michaelwww 11y ago

Could be or it could be more existential than that. The inscription on Robert Kennedy's memorial across from his grave in D.C. comes to mind: "Aeschylus...wrote, Even in our sleep, pain which cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, until, in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God" This is from a speech he gave on the night of MLK's assasination.

jschwartzi 11y ago

Well, OP is trying to explain that, as a man, it's okay to cry, and here you are saying that real men don't cry, and if he were more of a man he would be able to go through life stoically ignoring his feelings. It's basically the exact attitude that the article decries.

thowmeinariver 11y ago
I disagree, I found OP's statement to be very egotistical. He was painting himself as superior to younger men because "they haven't experienced much, that's why they don't cry!". Should younger men whose hormones don't allow them to cry feel bad about themselves? Are they subhuman for what they are? Have they not had enough "real life experiences"? This is obviously false. In fact, the majority of young men who experienced far worse than OP would still find themselves less likely to cry, and the reason is simply: biology. edit: >and think it's a sign of sanity Right, only OP is sane. Men who don't cry are lunatics.
- crpatino 11y ago
  If you are going to ask for an explanation, and then deny what people is trying to tell you and twist their words, you might as well take the down votes with a measure of dignity.

pherq 11y ago

Just because you mention testosterone doesn't make your explanation scientific. Given that the article in question brings up that men not crying is a relatively recent thing, and seems to be largely cultural, assuming that it must be caused by testosterone (rather than just socialisation) seems unwarranted (and, given that it disagrees with observation, unscientific).

thowmeinariver 11y ago
The article is trying to push an agenda. It simply isn't true that men crying was a common occurrence that suddenly vanished in the 20th century. Men crying is a powerful literary device precisely _because_ men don't cry often. It's a cheap way to signal the importance of a situation. It's not very controversial to say that low testosterone in men leads to increased tenancy to cry. If you are a man and go to the doctor saying that you have recently caught yourself crying much more often than in the past, they will get your T levels checked, not refer you to a psychologist.

dang 11y ago

We detached this from https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10218815 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10218815 and marked it off-topic for trolling.

thowmeinariver 11y ago
shrug Bluntness is not trolling.

kuni-toko-tachi 11y ago

100% correct. It has everything to do with low T. And the truth is in the downvotes. Not a man among them, only shiveling weaklings weaping big sobbing tears like children.