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1. Tell your wife. Trust me you'll feel better afterwards. 2. Keep looking for new opps. Get your CV out to as many places. Keep your hopes up. Spend time wi
by ak39 11y ago
1. Tell your wife. Trust me you'll feel better afterwards.
2. Keep looking for new opps. Get your CV out to as many places. Keep your hopes up. Spend time with your kids in the mean time. Kids are great company when you are "present with them".
3. Note for yourself: get numbers in writing before making changes to your life about opportunities.
4. Never use the word Fuck or any other expletives or crass language in any communique where you have the moral high ground. That just makes you look like the guilty one. Don't give the fuckers that chance.
Good luck bro.
- roflchoppa 11y agoDont spill all the beans to your wife, she's gonna bring it up in a fight later one. ask me how i know.
- igravious 11y agoDon't listen to this advice. Be honest. Don't ask me how I know.
- enneff 11y agoBe honest. I'm happy to answer questions as to why I believe this is good advice.
- igravious 11y agoOh I see. Sorry. I didn't mean it to come across like that. Just had a recent personal situation I'd rather not go into on a public forum that would have turned out a whole lot better if me and the truth were more in alignment, sad to say : / Anyway, one lie begets another. Just tell the truth, less cognitive overload, less trust issues. Easier said than done I know; we all want to save face, we all have our shame to hide.
- mcv 11y agoI'd say if you can't trust each other in a long term relationship, you have no business being in that relationship. You're in it to support each other. This is a situation where you need support.
- roflchoppa 11y agoI never said don't be honest, i just said don't spill all your beans. you'll see later what i mean.
- eru 11y agoIf that's the only thing you optimize for, you gonna have an even harder time if she catches you lying..
- tdsamardzhiev 11y agoAnd she will, sooner or later.
- hanswang2013 11y agoCan't agree more to point 4. Stay professional, nothing but just business. Personal is unwise and not-necessary.