A few thoughts. 1. Keep your head up. If you don't these feelings will get worse. Remember who you are, what makes you happy and why your happiness is importan

A few thoughts. 1. Keep your head up. If you don't these feelings will get worse. Remember who you are, what makes you happy and why your happiness is important. You can't make someone else happy if you are not happy yourself. 2. Talk to a Dr. They are qualified to help get to the root cause of why you are feeling less than ideal about yourself. 3. Make sure you have a work, life, balance. Work and then get out of the office and enjoy the fresh air. 4. Eat properly. Get some exercise. This works for me. When I feel down I hit the gym extra hard. 5. Get a hobby that isn't your day job. Go to public places to enjoy your hobby if you can. This might help you meet people. 6. Don't worry about dating. Try to make friends. Enjoy them. Build a relationship with them. Maybe they can help you get dates too. They would also be there for support if the dates don't go well. 7. `Smushing` sounds like a Jersey Shore term. I don't think a female wants to hear this out of a males mouth. It might be just me, but I wouldn't let any woman I wanted to date hear me use that. 8. Don't worry about looks, possessions, housing, car, etc. Most all women, I think, would rather find a guy that treats them right, values them, makes them feel like they are the most important thing in life versus all these other things. I had to uproot my wife and kid to be able to afford to make ends meet and buy my wife a house. We were able to move cross country and afford to buy a small house on a lake for about $150K. This made my wife happier than I could have imagined and I don't stress about paying for it. I am an average guy with a beautiful wife and I never had a lot of money or possessions to offer. At one point, my car exploded on a freeway and I could not afford to buy another one. This didn't detour her at all. 9. Lastly, find good in yourself. If you can't, "find a better mirror." Repeat Item #1. I wish you the best. If you need to talk, so many of us here want to listen and help. Please let us help. Edit: typos