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Yup. Just turned out 30; feel depressed as sh*t.

by paulojreis 11y ago

niklasni1 11y ago
Hey, hang in there, it's only two more years till you hit your hexadecimal twenties, which is where the real party is!
- paulojreis 11y ago
  I keep telling myself that the difference between 1441148399 and 1441148400 is negligible, but to little (or no) avail. :)
- rbonvall 11y ago
  That's what I told myself when becoming 32 earlier this year: "no longer an hexadecimal teenager, now I'm finally a 0x20-something"
crusso 11y ago
What I'd give to be 30 again...
- IkmoIkmo 11y ago
  Out of curiosity if I may, what'd you be doing if you woke up 30 tomorrow morning?
  - jazzyk 11y ago
    Relishing the endless possibilities life can bring. Being more care-free/not burdened by the responsibility of providing for a family. Doing things on a whim.
  - paulojreis 11y ago
    That's actually a great question. I'd love to hear the answer, not only from the guy you're asking but from everyone. I'm 30 now. If I woke up 20 again, I'd like to be offered the following advice: 1) Don't accept blindly the first paid internship you get, no matter how "big" the "big corp" is and how blessed your parents think you should feel (bear in mind, this was Portugal 9 years); 1.a) If you do accept, you don't have to stay there afterwards. Don't "stay" just because you're comfortable, particularly if you know, deep-down, you're not doing anything worthy or you hate it; 1.a.1) Even if you stay, move - sooner rather than later - if you suspect you should've already been promoted or "grown" inside the company. I'd say that, if you're not promoted or adequately appreciated within 3-5 years, chances are you won't be, at all. You'll deeply regret the years lost at that company, particularly if you're not fond of the business; 2) Overtime is a an exception. I repeat, exception. No money will ever pay the time you wasted in OT, particularly if it was for a company you don't like or a product you don't believe in; 3) A company funded PhD is a lovely idea if you're in love with the company. If you're not, or if you have any kind of bad feelings about it, "run". It's a very long term commitment, and the company will make you pay if you leave. I did; I couldn't stand it anymore, so I decided to pay. Bear in mind, again, Portugal; tuition for a PhD is a lot of money here.
  - rokhayakebe 11y ago
    Excellent question.
    - logicallee 11y ago
      Yes, we're waiting, crusso.
  - pronoiac 11y ago
    There's an Ask Metafilter question about what you'd say to your 30-something self: https://ask.metafilter.com/224770/The-timetravellers-advice-30yearold-edition https://ask.metafilter.com/224770/The-timetravellers-advice-... And also forty-something: http://ask.metafilter.com/268248/Advice-to-your-forty-year-old-self http://ask.metafilter.com/268248/Advice-to-your-forty-year-o...
    - IkmoIkmo 11y ago
      My biggest takeaway: I really ought to bulk up on floss straight away!
  - crusso 11y ago
    Well, if I didn't also have a family to consider - I think I'd move to another country. Just pick up and go somewhere interesting where I could challenge myself to learn a new language, culture, get a job in a new environment, and just generally make some really interesting memories. I think that the big mistake I made when I really was 30 was to retreat too quickly toward comfort.
    - rokhayakebe 11y ago
      I moved to the US when I was 19. Now I am 34. I have been thinking hard for the past few years about living briefly in Eastern Europe, then somewhere "desertic" in the Middle East, and a full year or more in Southern America (Hello Costa Rica). Living somewhere for a few years in another country is something every man* should do. *I say man because I think it will be hard for safety reasons for women to just pick up and live anywhere. They tend to get harassed a little more frequently.

Yup. Just turned out 30; feel depressed as sh*t.

niklasni1 11y ago

Hey, hang in there, it's only two more years till you hit your hexadecimal twenties, which is where the real party is!

paulojreis 11y ago
I keep telling myself that the difference between 1441148399 and 1441148400 is negligible, but to little (or no) avail. :)
rbonvall 11y ago
That's what I told myself when becoming 32 earlier this year: "no longer an hexadecimal teenager, now I'm finally a 0x20-something"

crusso 11y ago

What I'd give to be 30 again...

IkmoIkmo 11y ago
Out of curiosity if I may, what'd you be doing if you woke up 30 tomorrow morning?
- jazzyk 11y ago
  Relishing the endless possibilities life can bring. Being more care-free/not burdened by the responsibility of providing for a family. Doing things on a whim.
- paulojreis 11y ago
  That's actually a great question. I'd love to hear the answer, not only from the guy you're asking but from everyone. I'm 30 now. If I woke up 20 again, I'd like to be offered the following advice: 1) Don't accept blindly the first paid internship you get, no matter how "big" the "big corp" is and how blessed your parents think you should feel (bear in mind, this was Portugal 9 years); 1.a) If you do accept, you don't have to stay there afterwards. Don't "stay" just because you're comfortable, particularly if you know, deep-down, you're not doing anything worthy or you hate it; 1.a.1) Even if you stay, move - sooner rather than later - if you suspect you should've already been promoted or "grown" inside the company. I'd say that, if you're not promoted or adequately appreciated within 3-5 years, chances are you won't be, at all. You'll deeply regret the years lost at that company, particularly if you're not fond of the business; 2) Overtime is a an exception. I repeat, exception. No money will ever pay the time you wasted in OT, particularly if it was for a company you don't like or a product you don't believe in; 3) A company funded PhD is a lovely idea if you're in love with the company. If you're not, or if you have any kind of bad feelings about it, "run". It's a very long term commitment, and the company will make you pay if you leave. I did; I couldn't stand it anymore, so I decided to pay. Bear in mind, again, Portugal; tuition for a PhD is a lot of money here.
- rokhayakebe 11y ago
  Excellent question.
  - logicallee 11y ago
    Yes, we're waiting, crusso.
- pronoiac 11y ago
  There's an Ask Metafilter question about what you'd say to your 30-something self: https://ask.metafilter.com/224770/The-timetravellers-advice-30yearold-edition https://ask.metafilter.com/224770/The-timetravellers-advice-... And also forty-something: http://ask.metafilter.com/268248/Advice-to-your-forty-year-old-self http://ask.metafilter.com/268248/Advice-to-your-forty-year-o...
  - IkmoIkmo 11y ago
    My biggest takeaway: I really ought to bulk up on floss straight away!
- crusso 11y ago
  Well, if I didn't also have a family to consider - I think I'd move to another country. Just pick up and go somewhere interesting where I could challenge myself to learn a new language, culture, get a job in a new environment, and just generally make some really interesting memories. I think that the big mistake I made when I really was 30 was to retreat too quickly toward comfort.
  - rokhayakebe 11y ago
    I moved to the US when I was 19. Now I am 34. I have been thinking hard for the past few years about living briefly in Eastern Europe, then somewhere "desertic" in the Middle East, and a full year or more in Southern America (Hello Costa Rica). Living somewhere for a few years in another country is something every man* should do. *I say man because I think it will be hard for safety reasons for women to just pick up and live anywhere. They tend to get harassed a little more frequently.