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The only solution is to formalize everything. "Hello, may I speak further words to you?" "Hello, would you be comfortable if I help with your project? Also,
by seiji 11y ago
The only solution is to formalize everything.
"Hello, may I speak further words to you?"
"Hello, would you be comfortable if I help with your project? Also, I do not want my help to be construed as condescending or demeaning or belittling you, but I have been doing this for 20 years and you seem to be stuck on an introductory problem."
Then you have both parties sign an official collaboration and non-harrassment document, get it notarized, then 6 to 12 days later you may begin working together.
- BadassFractal 11y agoWonder how far this space is from having to deal with micro-aggressions, triggers and safe zones. Look, empathy and compassion are incredibly important, and we should require those in spaces that are possibly unfriendly to beginners, but there needs to be a line somewhere.
- seiji 11y agoIt's amusing how our mental model of people has become: anything potentially internally upsetting to a person will psychologically destroy them forever. Therefore, you must never say anything anybody (globally) could possibly have a negative reaction towards. Being sensitive and aware of others needs is great, but being punished because Joe cries when he hears the word Soufflé, and you didn't know that fact, is weird. On the other hand, once you know Joe is sensitive to the S word, and you continue harassing Joe with a daily Soufflé, then you are an asshat. Our future is on a trajectory to just be like the minions movie. The only word allowed will be banana, in deference to maintaining the internal psychological purity of all sentient humans.
- LordKano 11y agoOn the other hand, once you know Joe is sensitive to the S word, and you continue harassing Joe with a daily Soufflé, then you are an asshat. On the other-other hand if Joe is sensitive to the word Soufflé, maybe he shouldn't be hanging out in a French Restaurant.
- meatysnapper 11y agoWe need to invent a language that allows people to not offend anybody.