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Should they bow before asking nicely as well? They were not asking in a pleasant manner, but they were also not being outright rude. Not every interaction has
by lsaferite 11y ago
Should they bow before asking nicely as well?
They were not asking in a pleasant manner, but they were also not being outright rude. Not every interaction has to be sunshine and lollipops.
Passive-agressive outrage at the apparent lack of concern for the disenfranchisement of a fairly large population group seems... ok in the grand scheme. No name calling, no yelling, and no 'please sir, will you answer me this' is required.
- lotharbot 11y agoI'm merely noting something learned from a lot of arguing on the internet -- if you "ask" in an accusatory way, or a passive-aggressive way, or a way that makes it seem as though you've intentionally hidden something in your question, people are less likely to give you a genuine response. People are naturally conflict-avoidant, and the way the above question was asked makes it sound like someone is itching for conflict. Even if the OP had a good answer, it can be exhausting to phrase such an answer in a way that defuses points of conflict for an already-hostile conversation partner. This advice parallels one of the Hacker News guidelines: "avoid gratuitous negativity". Asking questions in a gratuitously negative way doesn't usually make for good conversation.