I'm extremely sorry to hear about your relative. My mother was going through S3 colorectal earlier this year. Two tips: 1. Quackwatch.org - the work this retire

I'm extremely sorry to hear about your relative. My mother was going through S3 colorectal earlier this year. Two tips: 1. Quackwatch.org - the work this retired doctor has done filtering the BS across the Internet is astounding. I even emailed him and he made himself available to talk to my mom. He said, "usually all they need is another voice to calm their fears". 2. Listen to them. Don't tell them NOT to do something. Just focus on the context and the most likely outcome. 3. Don't let them get "advice" from patients at the local acupuncture clinic or alternative treatments center. Or from Internet "testimonials". It's all about the first-hand. Talk to the oncologist and see if you can find patients that have been through it. My mother feared the ostomy bag absolutely. A week after she had it, she forgot it was there! The hardest part will be before surgery.