One very important thing: your relative and people immediately affected should find a counselor and probably a physician that can provide medical intervention f

One very important thing: your relative and people immediately affected should find a counselor and probably a physician that can provide medical intervention for the extreme stress and anxiety. I was diagnosed with stage iv colon cancer a little over a year ago. I was in shock and emotionally completely numb, or so I thought. I started having anxiety attacks, but I didn't know what was going on - I thought I was dieing right then. Eventually I wound up at the hospital where, after vitals and an interview about what I was feeling, they suggested what was really going on for me mentally and emotionally. I now have anti anxiety medicines (Xanax) and I can tell when they're needed. I'm grateful for getting the psych support. Ok, long winded, but basically a lot of what we deal with is made in our minds, and there is help available to mitigate the worst effects of this. Good luck, and thanks to anyone here that works in the medical field, battling these diseases.