For me, there was a convenience-oriented self-selection process. Having an affair is hard. You have to have time, alibis, and "laundered" money (typically an un

For me, there was a convenience-oriented self-selection process. Having an affair is hard. You have to have time, alibis, and "laundered" money (typically an unknown credit card, maybe wads of cash, etc). When it is two married people trying to meet up, the difficulty is much harder just from scheduling alone. Even in my case, it was a lot easier than most to find times to meet up, but I still can't spend more than a night or two per week out late without feeling like a crappy husband or father. I found it much easier to deal with single women on the site because I was constrained on when I could meet up, but they weren't. I think a good idea would be to have "verified-but-anonymized" posts tied to the amount of karma you have (just like downvotes). After building up some reputation, you could occasionally post an anonymized comment, and have it distinguished by the fact that it is done by an HN regular.