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I moderated on OKCupid for years, and this is so, so true. In fact, it usually went more like: "Heyyy guurllll lemme holla at you" "Thanks, but no thanks" "

I moderated on OKCupid for years, and this is so, so true. In fact, it usually went more like: "Heyyy guurllll lemme holla at you" "Thanks, but no thanks" "Fine bitch, you ugly anyway" That, or dick pics. So many dick pics.

surge 11y ago
Right, I know personally of more success stories from Everquest and WoW (and maybe one eHarmony story) or other random online communities than actual dating sites.
mikeash 11y ago
The first site that can reliably filter this stuff out before it even gets to the target will probably make enough money to form a small black hole. As a moderator, were you just responding to reports from users, or were you preemptively checking into messages, or something else?
- nasalgoat 11y ago
  No, it will cost them money because it's the men spending all the money on subscriptions. If they knew their messages were filtered they'd leave it droves.
  - mikeash 11y ago
    You're assuming that everything would continue to work as it does now. I'm proposing that if you can filter out the dickheads, you could end up with a site where it's no longer just men signing up. If you're the only site where women actually want to sign up, then you'll get all the men too, and you'll rake in the cash. Also, you're assuming that the idiot men would even be able to tell. Women mostly ignore their nonsense now, right? So it wouldn't look much different.
- 0x4a42 11y ago
  >As a moderator, were you just responding to reports from users, or were you preemptively checking into messages, or something else? I also worked as a moderator for a (local) dating site. We only checked on the messages that were reported either by the users or by the anti-spam filters. Also this was clearly specified in the privacy policy and EULA pages.
FireBeyond 11y ago
I did see one girls 'research'. Any time a guy on a dating site told her how 'fine' she was, she said "Thank you" or "Yes". 9 times out of 10, the response was "Well, you ain't all that". The implicit assumption was that girls should feel flattered to have some random man tell them they're attractive, and have no ego or self-confidence of their own.

surge 11y ago

Right, I know personally of more success stories from Everquest and WoW (and maybe one eHarmony story) or other random online communities than actual dating sites.

mikeash 11y ago

The first site that can reliably filter this stuff out before it even gets to the target will probably make enough money to form a small black hole. As a moderator, were you just responding to reports from users, or were you preemptively checking into messages, or something else?

nasalgoat 11y ago
No, it will cost them money because it's the men spending all the money on subscriptions. If they knew their messages were filtered they'd leave it droves.
- mikeash 11y ago
  You're assuming that everything would continue to work as it does now. I'm proposing that if you can filter out the dickheads, you could end up with a site where it's no longer just men signing up. If you're the only site where women actually want to sign up, then you'll get all the men too, and you'll rake in the cash. Also, you're assuming that the idiot men would even be able to tell. Women mostly ignore their nonsense now, right? So it wouldn't look much different.
0x4a42 11y ago
>As a moderator, were you just responding to reports from users, or were you preemptively checking into messages, or something else? I also worked as a moderator for a (local) dating site. We only checked on the messages that were reported either by the users or by the anti-spam filters. Also this was clearly specified in the privacy policy and EULA pages.

FireBeyond 11y ago

I did see one girls 'research'. Any time a guy on a dating site told her how 'fine' she was, she said "Thank you" or "Yes". 9 times out of 10, the response was "Well, you ain't all that". The implicit assumption was that girls should feel flattered to have some random man tell them they're attractive, and have no ego or self-confidence of their own.