> Asking women is not the answer here I'd add a big "but" here. There are pleanty of women who speak out and say that, yes, sometimes women just want a fling.

> Asking women is not the answer here I'd add a big "but" here. There are pleanty of women who speak out and say that, yes, sometimes women just want a fling. Ask a woman who identifies as a feminist. They are usually less concerned with upholding traditional gender roles, and often can speak freerer. However you're right that the societal filter can apply. If a conservative older, more powerful, man asks a woman (e.g. a 40 y.o. boss asking a 20 y.o. new employee), then yes, sometimes people don't tell the boss everything. A general advise of "don't listen to women!" is very disturbing.