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Most of the people might approve what you saying, but it is also reasonable for people to expect response when you are "in a conversation". For example, would y

Most of the people might approve what you saying, but it is also reasonable for people to expect response when you are "in a conversation". For example, would you ever do it when I'm talking to you on the face and asked "So what are the plans for tomorrow?". Do you expect one to stay there staring at your face while you acknowledge that you have received the question but don't "feel like" answering it right away, even though you have time? Technology, in a lot of ways mimics physical life. You have to understand that the other person might have taken time out of his/her busy schedule to have a chat with you. And when you not busy but just don't feel like responding, it's reasonable for them to feel offended as admit it, no one likes to have a quick conversation when every response is after half an hour. The easiest, non-offensive way to do that would just to drop a quick message telling them that you'd get back to them (when you are able to give a few minutes of undivided attention to them). That's all, and no one should mind it then. But if you never feel like having any realtime conversation with anyone at all, then may be there are communication issues :).

DarkTree 11y ago
> For example, would you ever do it when I'm talking to you on the face and asked "So what are the plans for tomorrow?". Do you expect one to stay there staring at your face while you acknowledge that you have received the question but don't "feel like" answering it right away, even though you have time? Technology, in a lot of ways mimics physical life. I think it's important to acknowledge that, while technology mimics physical life in a lot of ways, it does not replicate it. The medium of conversation matters and should be considered. For example, no I wouldn't stare at their face until I felt like answering it, but I also wouldn't say, "Dear John, thank you for your question.." as I would only do that in an email. Likewise, I wouldn't speak out loud a lot of common phrases I use in texts, because having a conversation through the medium of a phone is psychologically different than in-person, and I think that's the issue I was getting at. While texting, you have to be more cautious about word choice and sentence structure so that you can convey not only the message, but the tone as well, which will naturally come out in-person. 200 years ago, all instant communication was done in person. This is a relatively new field of psychology that hasn't seem to be explored due to the fact that, especially texting, is an extremely new form of communication.
teaneedz 11y ago
IRL convos are very different than online ones. If it's not important enough for a call, taking time "out of a busy schedule" to text also requires letting the recipient take time out of their busy schedule to reply. People really need to chill out when it comes to messaging. The recipient's time and reasons for responding when appropriate are just as valid and important as the senders time. Dropping a quick busy reply sometimes works, but also interrupts a persons flow. It's much better if a sender just has the proper perspective.

DarkTree 11y ago

> For example, would you ever do it when I'm talking to you on the face and asked "So what are the plans for tomorrow?". Do you expect one to stay there staring at your face while you acknowledge that you have received the question but don't "feel like" answering it right away, even though you have time? Technology, in a lot of ways mimics physical life. I think it's important to acknowledge that, while technology mimics physical life in a lot of ways, it does not replicate it. The medium of conversation matters and should be considered. For example, no I wouldn't stare at their face until I felt like answering it, but I also wouldn't say, "Dear John, thank you for your question.." as I would only do that in an email. Likewise, I wouldn't speak out loud a lot of common phrases I use in texts, because having a conversation through the medium of a phone is psychologically different than in-person, and I think that's the issue I was getting at. While texting, you have to be more cautious about word choice and sentence structure so that you can convey not only the message, but the tone as well, which will naturally come out in-person. 200 years ago, all instant communication was done in person. This is a relatively new field of psychology that hasn't seem to be explored due to the fact that, especially texting, is an extremely new form of communication.

teaneedz 11y ago

IRL convos are very different than online ones. If it's not important enough for a call, taking time "out of a busy schedule" to text also requires letting the recipient take time out of their busy schedule to reply. People really need to chill out when it comes to messaging. The recipient's time and reasons for responding when appropriate are just as valid and important as the senders time. Dropping a quick busy reply sometimes works, but also interrupts a persons flow. It's much better if a sender just has the proper perspective.