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I am a part of the polyamorous (not totally distinct, but not the same as polygamy) culture, and I think it is slowly gaining some momentum. I'm not convinced i

I am a part of the polyamorous (not totally distinct, but not the same as polygamy) culture, and I think it is slowly gaining some momentum. I'm not convinced it will ever see mainstream acceptance (who knows, LGBTQ+ people somewhat enjoy that now), but I think that it's a valid way to live life and enjoy romance and relationships. I have been with my current partner for 2 years, and we have both dated other people simultaneously. Many people don't believe that jealousy isn't an issue, but to be honest, for some people it's not an issue at all, and for others, trusting your partner is much stronger than worrying about what "could happen." Then, when it comes to stuff like this, it's not even an issue. My partner wants to hook up with somebody else? Totally, go for it, enjoy yourself. Find love in others as well. It's not that scary, and I have no fear of ever being cheated on.

angersock 11y ago
It's a curious thing--from observation, I note that poly (along with a lot of other non-normal personality traits) tends to be notably prevalent in the tech and academic sectors. It is an open question whether this is because there's simply more visibility, or something else. There's also a decent amount of it in the kink sub-communities. I have a hunch that it may be a byproduct of the ongoing evolution of the dating marketplace--if you have, for example, a rather uncommon kink or something, it makes sense not to voluntarily limit yourself to one supplier.
- icebraining 11y ago
  I'd say that belonging to the polyamourous community is more likely to limit you in the "dating marketplace" than giving you more options. You're essentially excluding the vast majority of the population, which is very much not OK with it.
  - angersock 11y ago
    Well, yes and no, right? It's a smaller marketplace, but theoretically one with more chances to connect with people, because the resources are being more fully utilized and distributed. And yes, the vocabulary here is somewhat on purpose. I think it's easy to argue that, if you're willing to treat the whole thing as matching providers and consumers, the poly approach is a strictly better marketplace than mainstream dating. Somewhat comically: the odds are good, but the goods are odd. :)
    - LesZedCB 11y ago
      Yeah, well I would say that when one is single and poly, the world is pretty wide open. When one is dating, certainly is makes it harder when you either have to find monogamous people who are ok with you dating other people (unlikely), or other poly people who are far less common than mono people.
- LesZedCB 11y ago
  I have actually noticed that as well. Almost all of my metamours have been in the tech sector.

angersock 11y ago

It's a curious thing--from observation, I note that poly (along with a lot of other non-normal personality traits) tends to be notably prevalent in the tech and academic sectors. It is an open question whether this is because there's simply more visibility, or something else. There's also a decent amount of it in the kink sub-communities. I have a hunch that it may be a byproduct of the ongoing evolution of the dating marketplace--if you have, for example, a rather uncommon kink or something, it makes sense not to voluntarily limit yourself to one supplier.

icebraining 11y ago
I'd say that belonging to the polyamourous community is more likely to limit you in the "dating marketplace" than giving you more options. You're essentially excluding the vast majority of the population, which is very much not OK with it.
- angersock 11y ago
  Well, yes and no, right? It's a smaller marketplace, but theoretically one with more chances to connect with people, because the resources are being more fully utilized and distributed. And yes, the vocabulary here is somewhat on purpose. I think it's easy to argue that, if you're willing to treat the whole thing as matching providers and consumers, the poly approach is a strictly better marketplace than mainstream dating. Somewhat comically: the odds are good, but the goods are odd. :)
  - LesZedCB 11y ago
    Yeah, well I would say that when one is single and poly, the world is pretty wide open. When one is dating, certainly is makes it harder when you either have to find monogamous people who are ok with you dating other people (unlikely), or other poly people who are far less common than mono people.
LesZedCB 11y ago
I have actually noticed that as well. Almost all of my metamours have been in the tech sector.