+1. Getting on the soapbox... It's more sad than anything. Maybe some of the poly world is looking at this and thinking, "See? I told you!" and maybe feeling sm

+1. Getting on the soapbox... It's more sad than anything. Maybe some of the poly world is looking at this and thinking, "See? I told you!" and maybe feeling smug about the outing of hypocrites. What we really have here are people who for whatever reason can't, won't, or don't go down the road of consensual non-monogamy but their desires and needs don't go away so some of them cheat. I think that's wrong, not because it's immoral, but because they're engaged in lying, breaking trust, and hurting other people. The dispersal of the account information is also hurting people and providing a salacious topic for gossip when it's none of anyone's business but the people involved. It's not my or anyone else's obligation to out someone who avoided the communication, risk, and work for the consensual part of non-monogamy but I believe I should avoid that person because they are not trustworthy and show a lack of concern for other people. Exposing them publicly to prejudice and ridicule confirms the worst attitudes about sex and love. Sorry for the throwaway, my relationship status is no secret to family, friends, and colleagues but I don't want my private life public.