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But that's just instinct isn't it? You can't really control how you feel about your children once they are born. It's not like you are making a deliberate, co
by ionised 11y ago
But that's just instinct isn't it?
You can't really control how you feel about your children once they are born.
It's not like you are making a deliberate, conscious decision to value their life over your own. That decision has already been made for you by your biology.
- epalmer 11y agoTo some extend I think you can control how you feel about them and parenting. There are days that just go on and on with parenting. Sick kids, crying,, whatever. You can choose to let that get to you or just solder on. That is a choice. I know parents that think of parenting as jail for 18 years. I think of it as a gift to me to help shape their lives.
- tripzilch 11y agoWell it may be instinct, but I also happen to agree with that instinct. I believe I have free will at least in the sense that I can choose whether to follow my instincts or fight them. Remember, we have many instincts other than caring for our children, and a bunch of those aren't really meaningful in today's society anymore, and a few of those actually need to be fought, and the majority of well-adapted people succeed at that just fine, because they choose to. There are other instincts we do not fight, because they align nicely with our sense of what is "good" and what is "right" (which I believe is not based on instinct), and in cases like raising children they even aid us and strengthen our resolve. Sounds like a win to me. (not a parent, btw).