Unless you really have no other option to support yourself, you really need to change jobs (or departments, etc.) if your job is requiring you to get anywhere c

Unless you really have no other option to support yourself, you really need to change jobs (or departments, etc.) if your job is requiring you to get anywhere close to needing therapy. Having learned this the hard way, I just don't think it's worth trying to hold on for it to get better. Be willing to move on. You'll likely find another job and make the same amount. Plus job hopping often is helpful in your career. And when your job is going well, save up some money so that when (yes, "when", not "if") it goes bad you have some funds to drawn on so that leaving isn't a financial burden and you can support yourself when you are between jobs. After 20 years in the field, I've just come to recognize that just how it is. Plan for it. And there's no reason to put yourself through undue mental or family anguish because you are afraid of making less (when you probably wouldn't anyway).