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This is pretty close to the same as Donald Sterling's opinion on black people, and outed gay Republicans who voted against gay equality. Even if the outing was

This is pretty close to the same as Donald Sterling's opinion on black people, and outed gay Republicans who voted against gay equality. Even if the outing was unethical, you can't un-pull the trigger on this being public knowledge, and people become responsible for their own shitty behavior that previously was concealed. Sucks to be them. And marital infidelity is unethical even if it isn't illegal. It's pretty FUCKING SHITTY to lie to your SO, sometimes for YEARS, exposing them to disease and finally ridicule and humiliation, and their own right to make informed choices about their precious time and trust they invest in a person. It is selfish and rotten and deprives the other person of agency. edit: on this account I have complained about Internet mob culture multiple times. I was hoping that people would recognize that I was pointing out the hypocrisy of people on this who don't care when it happens to people who do things they personally hate, but I was way too subtle. Resharing this data is a shitty thing to do, but it will happen again and who decides at that point that it's still shitty entirely depends on who is being exposed.

aaronbrethorst 11y ago
It is only the same if each and every AM user has taken a vocal stand against having an affair. Otherwise it is nothing like Sterling or every gay Republican legislator or preacher who has ever been forcibly dragged out of the closet. I'm disappointed HN has a blanket ban against Gawker links, as the Geithner story there from a few weeks ago has some very important lessons for this story.
- humanrebar 11y ago
  > It is only the same if each and every AM user has taken a vocal stand against having an affair. In most marriage ceremonies, the couple stands in public (at least in front of the people who care) and makes a series of vows. If that's not a vocal stand, I don't know what is.
tremon 11y ago
> And marital infidelity is unethical even if it isn't illegal So, even ignoring that high horse you're on: in your not so humble opinion, are all registrants on ALM guilty of marital infidelity? That's assuming guilt by association, and flies directly in the face of your own constitution.
- Ygg2 11y ago
  I think they exclusively cater to that audience. People that are married and are seeking a relationship. The point still somewhat stands that if you and your partner had open-marriage or something, your friends and family might find out. In which case, just pretend you were cheating on her and carry on (if price of outing you as a non-monogamous couple is too high).
tbirdz 11y ago
>marital infidelity is unethical even if it isn't illegal Marital infidelity is illegal in 21 states in the US, and many other countries as well. For many individuals this is not just an ethical concern, but a legal one as well.
- FireBeyond 11y ago
  Yes, because no politician wants to be the one who says "I propose a bill to make adultery legal. It's not an issue for the courts." There have been less that a dozen misdemeanor prosecutions in the last half century in those 21 states combined. So yes, in those states, it's illegal. Just as in many cases, so was homosexuality, and anal sex.
- FireBeyond 11y ago
  Furthermore, mentioning homosexuality made me think. In 2003, Lawrence vs Texas, the Supreme Court ruled that "sexual activity between consenting adults is legal", and that attempts to make it not so were unconstitutional. That's been held up in the case of homosexuality, but (perhaps because in most states it is already not prosecuted much and a misdemeanor) it's never been tested. So yes. It's illegal. In some states. Has largely been determined to be unconstitutional, your handwaving of "these people broke the law, they get no sympathy" notwithstanding.

aaronbrethorst 11y ago

It is only the same if each and every AM user has taken a vocal stand against having an affair. Otherwise it is nothing like Sterling or every gay Republican legislator or preacher who has ever been forcibly dragged out of the closet. I'm disappointed HN has a blanket ban against Gawker links, as the Geithner story there from a few weeks ago has some very important lessons for this story.

humanrebar 11y ago
> It is only the same if each and every AM user has taken a vocal stand against having an affair. In most marriage ceremonies, the couple stands in public (at least in front of the people who care) and makes a series of vows. If that's not a vocal stand, I don't know what is.

tremon 11y ago

> And marital infidelity is unethical even if it isn't illegal So, even ignoring that high horse you're on: in your not so humble opinion, are all registrants on ALM guilty of marital infidelity? That's assuming guilt by association, and flies directly in the face of your own constitution.

Ygg2 11y ago
I think they exclusively cater to that audience. People that are married and are seeking a relationship. The point still somewhat stands that if you and your partner had open-marriage or something, your friends and family might find out. In which case, just pretend you were cheating on her and carry on (if price of outing you as a non-monogamous couple is too high).

tbirdz 11y ago

>marital infidelity is unethical even if it isn't illegal Marital infidelity is illegal in 21 states in the US, and many other countries as well. For many individuals this is not just an ethical concern, but a legal one as well.

FireBeyond 11y ago
Yes, because no politician wants to be the one who says "I propose a bill to make adultery legal. It's not an issue for the courts." There have been less that a dozen misdemeanor prosecutions in the last half century in those 21 states combined. So yes, in those states, it's illegal. Just as in many cases, so was homosexuality, and anal sex.
FireBeyond 11y ago
Furthermore, mentioning homosexuality made me think. In 2003, Lawrence vs Texas, the Supreme Court ruled that "sexual activity between consenting adults is legal", and that attempts to make it not so were unconstitutional. That's been held up in the case of homosexuality, but (perhaps because in most states it is already not prosecuted much and a misdemeanor) it's never been tested. So yes. It's illegal. In some states. Has largely been determined to be unconstitutional, your handwaving of "these people broke the law, they get no sympathy" notwithstanding.