>"What's your real/previous name?" a perfectly valid question That's your problem right there. Veronica is my real (legal) name. It's not for you or anyone to

>"What's your real/previous name?" a perfectly valid question That's your problem right there. Veronica is my real (legal) name. It's not for you or anyone to decide what is my real (legal) name in a social situation. This is not a matter of a background check for a job or a security clearance. If you as a person can't acknowledge my name and my existence as is then the middle finger is going to be my answer back (and probably my fist if it gets rowdy).