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There "where were you born" question strikes me as the kind of thing that's at a minimum pretty tasteless just by the nature of the question. If someone asks w
by zyxley 11y ago
There "where were you born" question strikes me as the kind of thing that's at a minimum pretty tasteless just by the nature of the question.
If someone asks where you're from, they're probably curious about your background. If somebody asks where you were born, either they're implying you're not really a proper resident of where you prefer to live (whether that's a racial thing or a "somebody who moves to New York can't be a real New Yorker thing"), or they're being creepy by asking the kinds of things that get used as bank security questions.
- fallinghawks 11y agoThe "where are you from" question by itself is innocent, but becomes a microaggression when the asker refuses to take an American location as an answer (assuming US for simplicity). Then you get "No, where are you really from?" This implies that the POC, however much they talk, dress, and act like an American, cannot ever be a "genuine" American. "What ethnicity are you" or "What is your heritage" are better phrasings of the question of ethnic background.
- tomp 11y agoThe question "Where are you really from?" is equivalent to the questions "What ethnicity are you" or "What is your heritage" - the speaker is asking for the exact same information, and one must be really stupid not to get that.
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