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When I was young I told my friends that if they saw me in 20 years married and not playing music full time to go ahead and punch me in the face. I honestly thou

When I was young I told my friends that if they saw me in 20 years married and not playing music full time to go ahead and punch me in the face. I honestly thought that I would feel exactly the same at 40 that I did at 20. At that age I probably would have looked at my older self and thought that I had lost my passion, had sold out, become uncool, etc. It didn't occur to me that I would still remember everything that I knew at 20, plus have another 20 years to figure out what actually is important to me and become twice as confident and comfortable with myself. I felt way more "lost" when I was 20 than I did at 40. I don't think I've necessarily figured it all out. But, as much fun as I had when I was young, I like my life more now.

zepolen 11y ago
> I honestly thought that I would feel exactly the same at 40 that I did at 20. No you didn't. That's why you told your friends to slap you. So you're now married, live a boring life just like the 40 year olds you saw when you were 20. Justifying it to yourself in every way possible. Despite the fact you still long for that 'fun' past. Grow a pair man. Lying to yourself gets you nowhere no matter how good it feels.
- hluska 11y ago
  The point is that his life isn't boring - his priorities changed.
  - jakejake 11y ago
    (Unfortunately I can't reply to the parent since it got flagged) To add to what hluska wrote - Imagine your 5 year old self, thinking that when you are 20 your dream job will be riding on a garbage truck. You will spend every dime of your income on candy and Pokemon figures. You will live in a treehouse in your parents back yard, and girls (or guys) are yucky. Those things may all be awesome. At 20 you might even do some of them for a laugh, but they're certainly not life goals anymore. At 5 years old, you simply couldn't conceive of what would be significant at 20. Everything that I wanted at 20 I did - to excess. I exceeded every goal that ever occurred to my 20 year old self. I did it to the point where I grew bored. New things became more exciting. I continued to grow. If I was still running with my 20-year-old self's plan - I would honestly consider myself a failure.

zepolen 11y ago

> I honestly thought that I would feel exactly the same at 40 that I did at 20. No you didn't. That's why you told your friends to slap you. So you're now married, live a boring life just like the 40 year olds you saw when you were 20. Justifying it to yourself in every way possible. Despite the fact you still long for that 'fun' past. Grow a pair man. Lying to yourself gets you nowhere no matter how good it feels.

hluska 11y ago
The point is that his life isn't boring - his priorities changed.
- jakejake 11y ago
  (Unfortunately I can't reply to the parent since it got flagged) To add to what hluska wrote - Imagine your 5 year old self, thinking that when you are 20 your dream job will be riding on a garbage truck. You will spend every dime of your income on candy and Pokemon figures. You will live in a treehouse in your parents back yard, and girls (or guys) are yucky. Those things may all be awesome. At 20 you might even do some of them for a laugh, but they're certainly not life goals anymore. At 5 years old, you simply couldn't conceive of what would be significant at 20. Everything that I wanted at 20 I did - to excess. I exceeded every goal that ever occurred to my 20 year old self. I did it to the point where I grew bored. New things became more exciting. I continued to grow. If I was still running with my 20-year-old self's plan - I would honestly consider myself a failure.