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>>go explain that to people every time you are drinking water in a pub Don't go to pub. Pub: A public house where beverages, primarily alcoholic, may be bough

>>go explain that to people every time you are drinking water in a pub Don't go to pub. Pub: A public house where beverages, primarily alcoholic, may be bought and consumed.

probably_wrong 11y ago
But then you have a different issue: no friends, because everyone wants to go to the pub. Being the guy who will only hang out with you if you agree to his demands is not, socially speaking, a winning strategy. That strikes to me as a fair compromise: we'll go to a place I don't like. I won't make a single comment on it, and in fact I'll be cheerful and happy, but in return you won't ask me to do the thing I don't like.
- vlunkr 11y ago
  Not if you have friends that don't go to the pub! It's not unheard of.
- dharmach 11y ago
  There was a time when tolerating second-hand smoke, if not smoking itself, was considered necessary evil for socializing.
  - JoeAltmaier 11y ago
    There was a time before that, where smoking was only allowed in 'smoking rooms' while wearing a 'smoking jacket', so that ordinary people didn't have to smell like a campfire half their lives.
- VLM 11y ago
  "no friends, because everyone wants to go to the pub" I went thru that back when I was young (once you have a herd of kids, you won't have time for adult socializing, so that kind of solves itself). Anyway at least for an introverted young guy, I got way more than enough socializing at the gym (get drunk while lifting hundreds of pound weights, what could possibly go wrong LOL?) and hiking club (open container laws are enforced in our parks, maybe not all countries). I also met people at non-credit night classes while learning some carpentry, Japanese, cooking, religion, philosophy, history, whatever looked cool I'd sign up for ... I would imagine its much easier for young people now with online event organization for meetups and conferences and maker spaces. I wonder how much people drink at maker spaces. I would imagine drunken table saw and metal working machine operators don't live very long. They seem to produce things and the injury rate seems low, so probably not very much. Things get complicated if you're in one of those situations where friends work and socialize together. Super awkward, will never go back to that again. "Never cross the streams" - Ghostbusters
drdaeman 11y ago
You got downvoted for some reason, but you still have a point. If one doesn't fancy drinking and if situation allows for this (i.e. they have a voice while discussing where to gather, not just invited to pre-agreed place) - at least they should suggest their friends to gather somewhere else. Some place that's not about drinking. That is, if the place is still a subject of discussion, "Aw, guys, you know I'm not fond of drinking - how about some other place? I know a good cafe nearby..." is certainly not awkward. And, well, sometimes it's not a bad option to decline sometimes, too. Depends on a particular company.

>>go explain that to people every time you are drinking water in a pub Don't go to pub. Pub: A public house where beverages, primarily alcoholic, may be bought and consumed.

probably_wrong 11y ago

But then you have a different issue: no friends, because everyone wants to go to the pub. Being the guy who will only hang out with you if you agree to his demands is not, socially speaking, a winning strategy. That strikes to me as a fair compromise: we'll go to a place I don't like. I won't make a single comment on it, and in fact I'll be cheerful and happy, but in return you won't ask me to do the thing I don't like.

vlunkr 11y ago
Not if you have friends that don't go to the pub! It's not unheard of.
dharmach 11y ago
There was a time when tolerating second-hand smoke, if not smoking itself, was considered necessary evil for socializing.
- JoeAltmaier 11y ago
  There was a time before that, where smoking was only allowed in 'smoking rooms' while wearing a 'smoking jacket', so that ordinary people didn't have to smell like a campfire half their lives.
VLM 11y ago
"no friends, because everyone wants to go to the pub" I went thru that back when I was young (once you have a herd of kids, you won't have time for adult socializing, so that kind of solves itself). Anyway at least for an introverted young guy, I got way more than enough socializing at the gym (get drunk while lifting hundreds of pound weights, what could possibly go wrong LOL?) and hiking club (open container laws are enforced in our parks, maybe not all countries). I also met people at non-credit night classes while learning some carpentry, Japanese, cooking, religion, philosophy, history, whatever looked cool I'd sign up for ... I would imagine its much easier for young people now with online event organization for meetups and conferences and maker spaces. I wonder how much people drink at maker spaces. I would imagine drunken table saw and metal working machine operators don't live very long. They seem to produce things and the injury rate seems low, so probably not very much. Things get complicated if you're in one of those situations where friends work and socialize together. Super awkward, will never go back to that again. "Never cross the streams" - Ghostbusters

drdaeman 11y ago

You got downvoted for some reason, but you still have a point. If one doesn't fancy drinking and if situation allows for this (i.e. they have a voice while discussing where to gather, not just invited to pre-agreed place) - at least they should suggest their friends to gather somewhere else. Some place that's not about drinking. That is, if the place is still a subject of discussion, "Aw, guys, you know I'm not fond of drinking - how about some other place? I know a good cafe nearby..." is certainly not awkward. And, well, sometimes it's not a bad option to decline sometimes, too. Depends on a particular company.