The number one biggest lesson I have discovered the last few years, and the number one thing I have seen that holds people back when it is missing is : You alwa

The number one biggest lesson I have discovered the last few years, and the number one thing I have seen that holds people back when it is missing is : You always have a choice, and taking responsibility works. Choosing to blaming other people for whatever is not working for you, instead of choosing to take responsibility to create improvements that may work for you, is not something that works for you. Fabricating a story where you are a fake victim, complaining about things that aren't working for you, pretending things that aren't working for you are not your responsibility, and pretending you are fully justified in trying to blame others for what you declined to improve yourself, is just creating the very powerlessness for yourself you are pretending others forced upon you. As soon as you blame someone else, you give away your power, you reduce your agency, and you pretend that you don't have the power of choice, paradoxically creating the very circumstances about which you are complaining. As soon as you take responsibility you increase your power, agency and your choices, reducing the likelihood you have anything to complain about. Blaming others is a compelling fake narrative to be seduced by, because substituting getting real results with the fake pay off of pretending others are wrong, and by implication pretending you are right, has the color of "safety" because because it's a pay off you invent in your mind, rather than a result in the real world. So you don't have to do anything to create this fake pay off ( except delude yourself ) and even if you fail, you can still blame others, whereas if you fail while trying to create a real result, then you take responsibility, reflect that it was your choices that created this failure and think on this opportunity for creating improvements. This carries over into hiring. You want to hire people who aren't seduced by blaming others instead of taking responsibility to create improvements. These people are more productive and create more results than people who don't take responsibility. The number 2 would be : following your heart, let your feelings be your guide, and at every decision point, choose to walk closer to the life you want rather than further from it. The number 3 would be : be brave, live, do things that bring you alive, speak, let your light shine, give of your unique contribution.