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In an employment environment, that is clearcut sexual harassment. Wait, really? I've never posted it myself, but textual descriptions like "[hug]" as a way of

In an employment environment, that is clearcut sexual harassment. Wait, really? I've never posted it myself, but textual descriptions like "[hug]" as a way of expressing gratitude or solidarity are common and mundane in plenty of communities. Now, sure, cluttering technical discussions with stuff like this isn't preferable. To call it "clearcut sexual harassment" is ludicrous and completely devalues the term in question.

jlarocco 11y ago
> Wait, really? I've never posted it myself, but textual descriptions like "[hug]" as a way of expressing gratitude or solidarity are common and mundane in plenty of communities. I'd bet none of the communities you've seen it is a workplace.
- tbrownaw 11y ago
  No, actual workplace interactions that have all the involved humans in the same physical location don't use textual descriptions. Instead you get the actual actions. Because people who spend that much time interacting tend to not stay in a Platonic Ideal "strictly professional" relationship, but become acquaintances or even friends. In which case it's that set of rules that apply, rather than the ivory tower set of rules based on said Platonic Ideal.
  - jlarocco 11y ago
    So your workplace doesn't use email, source control, instant message, group chat, or any other kind of electronic text communication? But in a way that just emphasizes why "[hug]" would be awkward and borderline inappropriate in a work setting. How often do coworkers physically hug at work? I'm not saying it would always be wrong to use "[hug]" (or even physically hug somebody at work), but I'd expect it to be far less common than in some other settings.
    - bakabaka9 11y ago
      Nothing wrong with spontaneously hugging at work to relieve stress, assuming that all parties understand the purely Platonic meaning of the act (after all, we're grown-ups). I also tend to close my (less serious) working emails with stuff like "Love, kisses, [Name]" — and no one ever got offended by that, albeit the majority of my team would probably dislike some random bearded guy actually kissing them. Awkwardness is in the eye of the beholder. Working with adults (with no serious mental health issues) alleviates the need for a prohibitive, mildly disgusting CoC, like the one discussed in this thread.
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jlarocco 11y ago

> Wait, really? I've never posted it myself, but textual descriptions like "[hug]" as a way of expressing gratitude or solidarity are common and mundane in plenty of communities. I'd bet none of the communities you've seen it is a workplace.

tbrownaw 11y ago
No, actual workplace interactions that have all the involved humans in the same physical location don't use textual descriptions. Instead you get the actual actions. Because people who spend that much time interacting tend to not stay in a Platonic Ideal "strictly professional" relationship, but become acquaintances or even friends. In which case it's that set of rules that apply, rather than the ivory tower set of rules based on said Platonic Ideal.
- jlarocco 11y ago
  So your workplace doesn't use email, source control, instant message, group chat, or any other kind of electronic text communication? But in a way that just emphasizes why "[hug]" would be awkward and borderline inappropriate in a work setting. How often do coworkers physically hug at work? I'm not saying it would always be wrong to use "[hug]" (or even physically hug somebody at work), but I'd expect it to be far less common than in some other settings.
  - bakabaka9 11y ago
    Nothing wrong with spontaneously hugging at work to relieve stress, assuming that all parties understand the purely Platonic meaning of the act (after all, we're grown-ups). I also tend to close my (less serious) working emails with stuff like "Love, kisses, [Name]" — and no one ever got offended by that, albeit the majority of my team would probably dislike some random bearded guy actually kissing them. Awkwardness is in the eye of the beholder. Working with adults (with no serious mental health issues) alleviates the need for a prohibitive, mildly disgusting CoC, like the one discussed in this thread.
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