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I would find it odd to claim the men were holding the power in this situation It's the stable marriage problem. There's higher risk initiating, but higher rew
by michaelchisari 11y ago
I would find it odd to claim the men were holding the power in this situation
It's the stable marriage problem. There's higher risk initiating, but higher reward. Being in a receptive position means you're unable to even try for your highest preferred choice. You have to wait to see if that person chooses you.
It's not a clear cut power dynamic of one over the other, though.
- fossuser 11y agoOf course women can also obviously send a message - just because they don't have to culturally doesn't mean they can't do it.
- michaelchisari 11y agoAnd men also get messages. When I was online dating, I'd get between 1 and 4 a day. But my assumption is that we're dealing with the aggregate behavior, not the outliers.