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This article makes a big assumption that women only use sex to get to relationships, and men only use relationships to get to sex. Plenty of women casually dat
by michaelchisari 11y ago
This article makes a big assumption that women only use sex to get to relationships, and men only use relationships to get to sex.
Plenty of women casually date with no interest in serious relationships, for the same reasons that men do: They value their independence, they're focused on their careers, they like to be able to travel or meet new people.
It's antiquated to think that women who go on Tinder are hopelessly pining for love and commitment, and it's equally antiquated to think that there aren't men out there who want those exact things, but can't get them because the women they're dating aren't interested.
In fact, I'll posit that there's a much more positive outlook on this: People nowadays are much more suspicious of moving too fast, of losing parts of your identity and independence for the sake of just being in a relationship. The warning signs are more visible, and we act on them with less hesitation, instead of letting resentment of a bad situation fester into something awful. We break up easier, divorce easier, and refuse to live unhappy lives because the idea of being alone is no longer terrifying.
- sheepmullet 11y ago> We break up easier, divorce easier, and refuse to live unhappy lives because the idea of being alone is no longer terrifying. And funnily enough we seem to be a hell of a lot less happy.
- pyre 11y agoThe cost of a bad marriage seems like "less" so some people are less discriminating in deciding to take the plunge.
- sheepmullet 11y agoPeople also seem to invest a lot less in their partners. And it makes everyone worse off.
- malandrew 11y agoThat's a broad sweeping generalization. Does it have any basis in fact? Are people more depressed today than 10-20 years ago, or do we diagnose more people as depressed because we like labels? And if we actually are more unhappy today, is that cause attributable to dating issues, or is it attributable to some other shifts in society like the changing nature of jobs and financial stability?
- xyzzyz 11y ago> That's a broad sweeping generalization. Does it have any basis in fact? Actually yes, it does -- though only for women. Men are happier than in the past. http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969 http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969
- bm1362 11y agoThis seems like a pretty subjective opinion