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>“For young women the problem in navigating sexuality and relationships is still gender inequality,” says Elizabeth Armstrong, a professor of sociology at the U
by s_baby 11y ago
>“For young women the problem in navigating sexuality and relationships is still gender inequality,” says Elizabeth Armstrong, a professor of sociology at the University of Michigan who specializes in sexuality and gender. “Young women complain that young men still have the power to decide when something is going to be serious and when something is not—they can go, ‘She’s girlfriend material, she’s hookup material.’
That's just as much a reflection of what women are looking for. If a woman is attracted to a guy who is "high value" relative to her then she is attracted to a guy who has options. She is attracted to guys she has a power differential with. These women could choose to settle for a relationship where they have the options and power but that's not what they want.
- meatysnapper 11y ago90% of women want to sleep with 10% of men. Men are far less picky. Even the best looking of men has been a whale-rider in his time. Women: Is he rich? Good looking? Do other women want him? Men: Will she sleep with me? Once you understand that, all of the rest of this makes sense.
- chippy 11y ago> 90% of women want to sleep with 10% of men. I hope people are not confused when they see that 90% + 10% = 100%. They are measuring different things, that phrase (and it's probably incorrect for this very reason) is misleading in that it implies there is a 100%, that it encompasses all the women and all the men. (edits - another comment in this thread gives 80% and 20% with a reference) A possible less misleading phrase would be 90% of women do not want to sleep with 90% of men.
- bilbo0s 11y ago"...Even the best looking of men has been a whale-rider in his time..." Just... wow. Do people really think like this ??? I mean... this isn't even true. For instance, I can, pretty much, guarantee that even when he was a QB and Captain in High School and at the University of Michigan... Tom Brady was NEVER as indiscriminate as you intimate. His women were ALWAYS top 1% of those available. That's just how the world works. I know it's unfair... but that's reality. The best looking men and the supermodels NEVER have to "settle". Now they may not be altogether "happy" in their choice of life partners... but they are DEFINITELY not out "settling".
- meatysnapper 11y agoBut sometimes, you don't have a supermodel around... just a hosebeast lurking off in the corner. The end result is often shame and disgust for the man, but doesn't stop it from happening all the time. There are a ton of guys who keep a fat chick on bootycall. You'd be surprised. A better looking woman, at least in markets not as saturated with women as NYC, will not put up with that as easily.
- dang 11y ago> whale-rider > hosebeast Please don't do this here.
- chronid 11y agoI fear where that reasoning is going. Should I expect to have no say on how much serious I want a relationship to be in the future? In the name of "gender equality"? Holy crap.
- s_baby 11y agoI don't see how anything like that would become a trend. But I think it makes for an interesting double standard in how we talk about these issues. If a sociologist was to describe a scarcity of sex for men as gender inequality she would be informed that men aren't entitled to sex from anyone and that she is promoting rape culture. A woman isn't entitled to a relationship from men any more than men are entitled to sex from women.