The point you are making is correct and well argued for. I also think I sucked at expressing myself and haven’t been very polite at all. I also think that this

The point you are making is correct and well argued for. I also think I sucked at expressing myself and haven’t been very polite at all. I also think that this is a much better comment than your first one. I really think one should be very careful when dragging victim terminology into this discussion or, in fact, any discussion about weight. I have been unable to lose weight for years (all the time being extremely aware of how shitty I felt all the time and the negative impact on my health) and now after I did I’m still not sure how I actually did it. Point is, it’s not as simple as telling people to just lose weight. Because just losing weight is extremely hard and it’s time we acknowledge that. And I’m not talking about the raw mechanics of losing weight here – those are easy and work with mathematical precision (well, ok, I myself may be generalizing too much here, but for me they did: if calories out minus calories in are equal to roughly 7000 I had lost 1kg, maybe ±.3kg, though that’s probably mostly due to the inherent uncertainties of estimating calories). It’s about psychology and accusing people of playing the victim or trying to insult them to lose weight is just not a workable strategy. It just doesn’t work. Or it may even work for some people, but I don’t think it’s in general a wise strategy because it’s plain dehumanizing.