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Hiya. You can do two things -- one, take it personally and get upset, and have things be awkward. Or two, take this a chance to get some feedback about yourself
by nazgul1 11y ago
Hiya. You can do two things -- one, take it personally and get upset, and have things be awkward. Or two, take this a chance to get some feedback about yourself and see if you need to improve. Who told you about the comment? Can you ask that person if they agree? You could even approach the employee, say you heard that and that you genuinely apologize if you came off that way, and that you'd love to know what exactly it was so you can make sure not to do it again.
I really think you can turn this from something awkward to something positive with the right attitude.
- 0x400614 11y agoNo other team members do not think that. My close co worker friend also disagreed, and I do believe her, because we are close. The person who told my source (person who sits next to me), had his friend (co worker) next to him as well, and his friend disagreed with him that I am condescending. This person that believes I am has not made any effort to confront me on this issue. Based on the current evidence, he doesn't know that I know what he said.
- balls2you 11y agoTalk to the person who says you're condescending and ask them for situations where you were. Then analyze whether you were or not. The problem with a lot of developers/scientists/"people who have been told they are smart all their life" is that they may think they're making a point or describing something but most of them can be condescending because they think they are always right. It is an attitude change. If you cannot confront your critics, you cannot correct yourself if you're in the wrong. Also it will help you maneuver social situations better. To be or not to be condescending - that is a situation that needs to be understood, before you actually act it.